I have been reading so many good mysteries, which I will be doing short reviews for over the coming few weeks. One of my favourite new series I have to thank Cath at Read-Warbler for. Her review of Julia Spencer-Fleming's 3rd book, Out of the Deep I Cry, the Reverend Clare Fergusson series, got me finally to read the first book, In The Bleak Midwinter, in July, which I had had on my shelf for years. And a funny thing happened when I read that book. Not only was I hooked on the series - especially the two main characters, Reverend Clare and Sheriff Russ Van Alstyne, but the reverend herself. Something happened within me, and I realized that I wanted to be like Clare. It was quite a shock to me when I realized I was jealous of a book character!
Then I had to consider what this meant. Did I want to be a minister? A reverend? And I came to the conclusion that if my life had been very different, yes, I would. But, my life went in a very different route when I was very young, and looking at Reverend Clare Fergusson, I came to see that I wanted more spirituality in my life. Not just spirituality, which is vague and not directed towards anything. I wanted to know my personal belief figure better (for lack of a better generic way to put it!). For a very long time, most of my life, I have known there was a spiritual part to life that I am attracted to, and interested in. A way of contemplating the universe, if you will. I've only ever lingered at the edge, until this summer, when this fictional character woke up in me the recognition of what I want to do for myself. At the same time, I picked up St Teresa de Avila's The Interior Castle because I had heard about it somewhere as a way to understand the longing we have to behold the sacred. I am not about to go all religious, don't worry! That was part of the path I turned from so very long ago. What I am interested in, is answering the call, that longing. I don't know where it will lead to yet, just that being more silent is part of it. So I have to thank Cath and the Reverend Clare very much! Besides all this, it really is a well-written mystery series, and I have been reading them as fast as I can get them. I have just finished Out of the Deep I Cry last week. It's a bit annoying on how the two main characters always keep ending up in deadly fixes together, though this is part of their attraction to each other that they are figuring out. I will do a review on each of the books later. I am fascinated to see what Clare does next, and how she has the patience to tend to everyone who comes to her door is a marvel to see. Sadly it is after 1 a.m. and I have to get to bed!
So
in lieu of a book review because it's so very late at night, here is
what is on my table beside my computer right now, so you can know what I'm reading since I started realizing what I wanted more of in my life:
Collected Poems - Jane Kenyon (been reading all summer)
London - Edward Rutherford (just started)
The Wise Man's Fear - Patrick Rothfuss (about 3/4 read)
Answering the Contemplative Call - Carl McColman (almost finished)
The Old Ways - Robert MacFarlane
A Book of Silence - Sara Maitland (begun again after last summer when I started it , didn't get far)
The Myth of the Goddess - Anne Baring and Jules Cashland
The Interior Castle - St Teresa de Avila (slowly reading)
Trust Your Vibes - Sonia Choquette (half-way done)
The Poetry of Robert Frost (just begun)
I have a half-formed plan of reading a poem a day for a year, and posting about the poem (or at least the title!) here. I like the idea, it's deciding on the day to start! I'll let you know when I do.
So, I am back. I did not plan on being away this long. I did not know I was even going to take a break from blogging. As some of you know, last summer I decided to learn how to be more quiet in my life, to make time for some silence each day. I now know that I was hearing that call. I still feel the need, and yet funnily enough because of it, I value my friendships and family that much more. I do want to keep blogging. I am figuring out how I want to blog while I explore my spiritual requirements, and learning how to say again what I want to say about books. I have been popping in to see many of your blogs over the past few months, and leaving comments once in a while. I have wanted to know what you were reading! I came here many times, wondering if I could post, though it turned out I couldn't, even though I have been reading many superb mysteries and other books this spring and summer. That is the way of the soul, it sometimes needs something different. I'm just glad I can write here again, at last.
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Thursday, 21 August 2014
Wednesday, 10 July 2013
Introvert!
So a funny thing happened after my last post in May. I had several posts lined up in my mind, ready to go. And then, poof! I became unable to blog. I would read a book and say, 'oh, I have lots to say!' I have taken pictures of my garden for so many Saturday Market posts.....I have pictures and books from my 50th birthday.....but I couldn't post. I couldn't, and still can't, quite figure out what happened. The closest answer I can come to, is one that is perfect in hindsight: I am an introvert. The busier my life socially got, the more I became unable to do anything about posting. This is like seeing Susan Cain's book Introvert in action. By the way, here is a quiz from Susan Cain's website, to determine if you are an introvert or an extrovert.
It was crazy for two months, and there was little I could do about most of it, without crippling friendships and obligations I had taken on. I have learned my lesson. It's ok to be an introvert! Sometimes it takes one until they are 50 to realize this, though. No matter how many warnings I had in the past, in overdoing it (and I have known this for over 20 years about myself). As much as I thought I was an introvert, I didn't want to be rude, and I didn't know how to stop and think about what I wanted to do, really. So I would get over-extended, and then socially burn-out, and shut myself up for weeks. I realized, once again, I have a certain amount of energy for socializing, and when it gets used up, that's it. Nada. No more.
What I learned:
In the midst of all this activity, my family - husband and two of our children - went to England to visit his family. I couldn't go, both because I couldn't get the time off work, and also because physically, I couldn't handle the big trip so soon after my operation in February. There is also the small matter of having to socialize for weeks on end again, which lay there in the background of my mind, and I just couldn't go. So I stayed happily at home, by myself. All alone. I missed my family more and more as time went on, and did wish I could have gone to England. I love going to England normally! Any time! Just not this time. It was surprisingly easy to not go, and at the same time hard to let my family go, emotionally.
During this last week, my only week with no activities planned, was blessedly at home every evening. Did I say I almost burst out crying at the end of the second week alone when it had somehow filled up and I hadn't planned it? That was when I said, stop. It's been a hard lesson to learn, that who I want to be (someone pleasant and able to socialize) is not who I am (someone who likes one or two people at a time, and to really stay at home all the time.)
I knew, have known since I was 12, that I prefer to read, and to spend time alone. But I was afraid I would not have any friends if I did that, so I learned how to go out, and somewhere along the line, even though I kept reading and doing some writing, I forgot to check in with myself. I love going out to movies, and to restaurants, just not all the time. In fact, not more than once or twice a month. At most. And somewhere inside, I thought someone who never went out was a loser. That's how powerful extroverts are on us.
I had three precious weeks of time alone every night (no matter what time I got home at!) and it has done me a world of good. I'm now working on simplifying my life, and doing what I want to do. As much as I can, with three children and a husband! I can find more time to be alone, and to be still, and to be silent, and that seems to be what I crave most right now.
I was most surprised that I couldn't blog during this time. All the words about books dried up. I couldn't even come and see you, which normally I love to do, and leave comments. I went away, into silence. However, I missed you all. And my dear blog, which I thought at one point, is it all over for me? I am so thankful to say, I am back.
As you can see, I have redecorated - nothing like a new colour scheme to cheer the soul up! And in true introvert style, I have been doing the things I love to do:
Gardening posts to come:
I have been busy in my garden, planting 30 of the 50 plants for my birthday. I will do a post about the plants, and my birthday! We had a fabulous celebration. I just couldn't write about it, so much was going on around then.
I have also been reading, reading, reading. I'm not quite caught up to where I should be, though I do have three books on the go. I have been reading, a lot. I will be posting about them. I promise. So many are very good. Plus do the round-up of what I read for Once Upon a Time, since I did continue to read for it until June 21.
Two interesting books on the go involving silence:
Two books I have been dipping into at this time are A Book of Silence by Sara Maitland, and The True Secret of Writing, by Natalie Goldberg. Both are about silence, and how necessary it is.
Maitland's book is about her journey to silence, and how she discovered she loved it, in her late 40's. I am enjoying this book very much. Here is the original site I found the book at: The Hermitary: Women and Silence. I could swear I found this through Terri Windling's blog, but I can't find the link. If I do, I will pst it here.
Goldberg's book is her latest in her series of writing books, of which Writing Down the Bones is the first. I've had that one on my shelf for many years, and often dip into it. The True Secret of Writing is her distillation of many years of zen and writing practice. She has taught for many years a retreat for artists/writers/etc. The book is fascinating, if sometimes a little light. Her rules are simple and three: Sit. Walk. Write. Sit and contemplate the world, doing nothing, for a minimum of 10 minutes a day (longer if you can). Quiet the mind. Walk slowly, no talking. Look around. And then write.
It sounds simple, and it's hard to do, and exactly what I need. If you are feeling blocked creatively, overwhelmed, longing for something but not able to get away, just want to do something differently, or learn to be here now, feeling the space around you that you are in, this is a book to try.
Books right now:
I have managed to get my hands finally on the new Sylvia Plath biography, Mad Girl's Love Song by Andrew Wilson, from the library on Monday. I've already read two chapters. It's very good. Current mystery reading is Summertime, All the Cats are Bored, a newly-translated French noir mystery by Philippe Georget. I'm really enjoying this one.
Gifts from England from my wonderful husband:
Before I go, below is a picture of what my husband brought back from England for me. Books I had specifically requested, and my favourite biscuits (cookies) from Marks and Spencer, and some tea. I just opened the presents today, and keep fondling the books. At long last I am holding them! As you can see from the cookies, I've already opened the package and had 1 or 3......
Boneland - Alan Garner - never available over here, I am almost beyond happiness to finally get to hold this book and read it. The 3rd one in his Weirdstone Trilogy. Colin, grown up.
Living Dangerously - Katie Fforde - I have Cath at Read-Warbler to thank for this one. Ever since her amazing delightful review, I have been wanting to read this. Our library only has one of her other books, Love Letters, which funnily enough is the other one in this review! I just got it out two weeks ago. Living Dangerously (the one I really wanted) is mine to keep!!
Gossip From the Forest - Sara Maitland - same author as A book of Silence, above. This just came out, and is about fairy tales and forests.
The Girl on the Stairs - Louise Welsh - have been waiting for ever for this to come out in small paperback (not the huge one that is almost the size of a hard cover), the same as
The End of the Wasp Season - Denise Mina. Hurray!! They are both mysteries.
The Small Hand - Susan Hill - if it ever got here, I didn't see it. Dolly was also on my requested list, but my husband could only see this. I am so happy. A lovely ghost story by one of the best writers of them.
Other reviews:
Boneland:
Terri Windling
Ursuula K Le Guin in the Guardian review. (spoilers)
Fantasy Book Review (spoilers)
Gossip From the Forest
Guardian - June 21/13 review
Guardian - Oct 2012 review
Alex in Leeds
Eva at A Striped Armchair
A Book of Silence
Ursula K. Le Guin
Living Dangerously
Cath at Read-Warbler
Random Jottings (lovely post on Fforde's books in general)
Small Hand
Margaret at Books Please
The End of the Wasp Season
Mysteries in Paradise
Sometimes an introvert just has to go away for a while. I really wish I knew before-hand so I could put a little notice up here! Anyway, I am feeling somewhat full of words again, and able to write, as you can see. I missed you all! I hope you have been having a fabulous summer reading........
***ADDED***
And a shout-out to Ana at Things Mean Alot, who just on her post today linked to Jack Zipes review of Gossip From the Forest and Philip Pullmans' Fairy Tales from the Brothers Grimm, A New English Version!!! Here is Ana's post, and here is the post at the LA Times. Now I HAVE to get Pullman's book! I'm also thinking there is some synchronicity here, so must get to reading Gossip From the Forest asap.
It was crazy for two months, and there was little I could do about most of it, without crippling friendships and obligations I had taken on. I have learned my lesson. It's ok to be an introvert! Sometimes it takes one until they are 50 to realize this, though. No matter how many warnings I had in the past, in overdoing it (and I have known this for over 20 years about myself). As much as I thought I was an introvert, I didn't want to be rude, and I didn't know how to stop and think about what I wanted to do, really. So I would get over-extended, and then socially burn-out, and shut myself up for weeks. I realized, once again, I have a certain amount of energy for socializing, and when it gets used up, that's it. Nada. No more.
What I learned:
In the midst of all this activity, my family - husband and two of our children - went to England to visit his family. I couldn't go, both because I couldn't get the time off work, and also because physically, I couldn't handle the big trip so soon after my operation in February. There is also the small matter of having to socialize for weeks on end again, which lay there in the background of my mind, and I just couldn't go. So I stayed happily at home, by myself. All alone. I missed my family more and more as time went on, and did wish I could have gone to England. I love going to England normally! Any time! Just not this time. It was surprisingly easy to not go, and at the same time hard to let my family go, emotionally.
During this last week, my only week with no activities planned, was blessedly at home every evening. Did I say I almost burst out crying at the end of the second week alone when it had somehow filled up and I hadn't planned it? That was when I said, stop. It's been a hard lesson to learn, that who I want to be (someone pleasant and able to socialize) is not who I am (someone who likes one or two people at a time, and to really stay at home all the time.)
I knew, have known since I was 12, that I prefer to read, and to spend time alone. But I was afraid I would not have any friends if I did that, so I learned how to go out, and somewhere along the line, even though I kept reading and doing some writing, I forgot to check in with myself. I love going out to movies, and to restaurants, just not all the time. In fact, not more than once or twice a month. At most. And somewhere inside, I thought someone who never went out was a loser. That's how powerful extroverts are on us.
I had three precious weeks of time alone every night (no matter what time I got home at!) and it has done me a world of good. I'm now working on simplifying my life, and doing what I want to do. As much as I can, with three children and a husband! I can find more time to be alone, and to be still, and to be silent, and that seems to be what I crave most right now.
I was most surprised that I couldn't blog during this time. All the words about books dried up. I couldn't even come and see you, which normally I love to do, and leave comments. I went away, into silence. However, I missed you all. And my dear blog, which I thought at one point, is it all over for me? I am so thankful to say, I am back.
As you can see, I have redecorated - nothing like a new colour scheme to cheer the soul up! And in true introvert style, I have been doing the things I love to do:
Gardening posts to come:
I have been busy in my garden, planting 30 of the 50 plants for my birthday. I will do a post about the plants, and my birthday! We had a fabulous celebration. I just couldn't write about it, so much was going on around then.
I have also been reading, reading, reading. I'm not quite caught up to where I should be, though I do have three books on the go. I have been reading, a lot. I will be posting about them. I promise. So many are very good. Plus do the round-up of what I read for Once Upon a Time, since I did continue to read for it until June 21.
Two interesting books on the go involving silence:
Two books I have been dipping into at this time are A Book of Silence by Sara Maitland, and The True Secret of Writing, by Natalie Goldberg. Both are about silence, and how necessary it is.
Maitland's book is about her journey to silence, and how she discovered she loved it, in her late 40's. I am enjoying this book very much. Here is the original site I found the book at: The Hermitary: Women and Silence. I could swear I found this through Terri Windling's blog, but I can't find the link. If I do, I will pst it here.
Goldberg's book is her latest in her series of writing books, of which Writing Down the Bones is the first. I've had that one on my shelf for many years, and often dip into it. The True Secret of Writing is her distillation of many years of zen and writing practice. She has taught for many years a retreat for artists/writers/etc. The book is fascinating, if sometimes a little light. Her rules are simple and three: Sit. Walk. Write. Sit and contemplate the world, doing nothing, for a minimum of 10 minutes a day (longer if you can). Quiet the mind. Walk slowly, no talking. Look around. And then write.
It sounds simple, and it's hard to do, and exactly what I need. If you are feeling blocked creatively, overwhelmed, longing for something but not able to get away, just want to do something differently, or learn to be here now, feeling the space around you that you are in, this is a book to try.
Books right now:
I have managed to get my hands finally on the new Sylvia Plath biography, Mad Girl's Love Song by Andrew Wilson, from the library on Monday. I've already read two chapters. It's very good. Current mystery reading is Summertime, All the Cats are Bored, a newly-translated French noir mystery by Philippe Georget. I'm really enjoying this one.
Gifts from England from my wonderful husband:
Before I go, below is a picture of what my husband brought back from England for me. Books I had specifically requested, and my favourite biscuits (cookies) from Marks and Spencer, and some tea. I just opened the presents today, and keep fondling the books. At long last I am holding them! As you can see from the cookies, I've already opened the package and had 1 or 3......
Boneland - Alan Garner - never available over here, I am almost beyond happiness to finally get to hold this book and read it. The 3rd one in his Weirdstone Trilogy. Colin, grown up.
Living Dangerously - Katie Fforde - I have Cath at Read-Warbler to thank for this one. Ever since her amazing delightful review, I have been wanting to read this. Our library only has one of her other books, Love Letters, which funnily enough is the other one in this review! I just got it out two weeks ago. Living Dangerously (the one I really wanted) is mine to keep!!
Gossip From the Forest - Sara Maitland - same author as A book of Silence, above. This just came out, and is about fairy tales and forests.
The Girl on the Stairs - Louise Welsh - have been waiting for ever for this to come out in small paperback (not the huge one that is almost the size of a hard cover), the same as
The End of the Wasp Season - Denise Mina. Hurray!! They are both mysteries.
The Small Hand - Susan Hill - if it ever got here, I didn't see it. Dolly was also on my requested list, but my husband could only see this. I am so happy. A lovely ghost story by one of the best writers of them.
Other reviews:
Boneland:
Terri Windling
Ursuula K Le Guin in the Guardian review. (spoilers)
Fantasy Book Review (spoilers)
Gossip From the Forest
Guardian - June 21/13 review
Guardian - Oct 2012 review
Alex in Leeds
Eva at A Striped Armchair
A Book of Silence
Ursula K. Le Guin
Living Dangerously
Cath at Read-Warbler
Random Jottings (lovely post on Fforde's books in general)
Small Hand
Margaret at Books Please
The End of the Wasp Season
Mysteries in Paradise
Sometimes an introvert just has to go away for a while. I really wish I knew before-hand so I could put a little notice up here! Anyway, I am feeling somewhat full of words again, and able to write, as you can see. I missed you all! I hope you have been having a fabulous summer reading........
***ADDED***
And a shout-out to Ana at Things Mean Alot, who just on her post today linked to Jack Zipes review of Gossip From the Forest and Philip Pullmans' Fairy Tales from the Brothers Grimm, A New English Version!!! Here is Ana's post, and here is the post at the LA Times. Now I HAVE to get Pullman's book! I'm also thinking there is some synchronicity here, so must get to reading Gossip From the Forest asap.
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